The Perfect One

Meeting and accepting the person that's Mr. or Mrs. Right.  How difficult does it seem?  Yet, how difficult is it?  More often than not, we hear both males and females talk about all the great ideas they have regarding how “the perfect one” will look, talk, sound, act, and the grueling list goes on and on.  Many people promise that “THE LIST,” a sheet of paper containing tons of fantastic words describing the perfect mate, is a guaranteed way to focus on and get the person you want.  Yes the list may sound perfect but is there really a perfect mate?

“Just Wright” a movie starring Queen Latifah and Common, isn’t a film where people sit around to talk about meeting the right guy, rather it shows what happens when the right one shows up.  The movie is anchored by a beautiful women who desires to become married to a professional athlete for all the wrong reasons.  She has a list and is determined to check off every item she’s listed.  At first glance it’s hilarious but this women does everything she can to make sure she plays the game right so that Mr. Right, takes the bait and makes the catch.  On the opposite spectrum, the movie shows what happens when the right person just shows up.   No pre-made list, fantasy driven ideas, or stereotypical images, just the right person. 

More often than not, we’re consumed with pre-conceived ideas of what we want.  This conviction causes us to automatically shut down when someone comes around who doesn’t fit the perception of what we think we want.  We simply miss it and fail to give any attention to the idea that although they’re not a perfect match, that they could actually be the one.  Just think about it.  How often do you hear your friends say they want somebody!  And then once somebody attempts to come along, they are dismissed by your friend because they don’t make the cut.  The list comes out and they’re excused because of their body type, hair length, skin complexion, job, bank account, car, family, friends, diet, and the list just keeps going.  And at the end of the day once again your friend still hasn’t found anyone, and especially not "the one."

Now does “the list” have merit or value?  Absolutely!  We must know what we would like to have and set standards to things that are absolute deal breakers.  Yet, we can’t be so completely attached to a list that it gives us no room to look up and experience a whiff of fresh air when someone comes along that’s not an exact match.  The beauty in relationships, is sharing life with someone who allows you to be free enough to be who you are and willing to go through life with you during seasons of change.  At the end of the day it’s that person you want to embrace, not a list.

There's something different in the air today....enjoy it's freshness!

 ~Dee