Call Me Out

Only day two....two days having passed while trying to create a habit of consistency. And although there were several logical reasons to call and say “Not today,” “Maybe tomorrow,” or “Let me see if someone else can do it,” I pressed forward. So often we are given two choices: 1) the choice to do what we say we're going to do and 2) the choice to not do what we said we would. Today it seems that most people expect a pass when they make the decision to cancel their obligations. They expect to hear "ok, i'll see what I can do since you can't do it now"....or "Well no, I'm not disappointed, it's cool."  I admit there have been times when, for whatever reason, I decided to make the phone call to let someone know that something came up. But lately I'm so tired of hearing something came up!!! I don't want to hear it, I don't want to say it, I don't want it said to me, and I don't want it to become the standard. Yes, stuff comes up and things happen that we have absolutely no control over, but I'm speaking of times when we say we're not gonna do it just because (something “better” comes up, or I just don't feel like it, etc). It's time we stop accepting mediocrity and start holding each other accountable for keeping our word. If I said I was gonna do something and at the last minute I change my mind I want you to call me out, let me know it's not cool and that you had much higher expectations of me to do what I said I was gonna do. I want you to do it for me and I hope you'd want the same. Our word and making sure we DO what we say plays a huge role in how people categorize us. I would rather someone tell me "nope, sorry I can't do it" instead of saying "yes, you know I got your back" and never come thru and do what they said they would. So if I call you out, or you have to call me out let's just be called out, let's choose to do better next time and keep it moving, because the only way we can truly see ourselves, is if someone else calls us out.  So for anyone out there who'd like to call me out, the phone lines are open and you can call me anytime and....Ooops my bad i can't do anytime, so ummm...."Not today, maybe tomorrow."  

Just kidding!!! ~Call me out!

Dee

Put your right foot in and your left foot out...

Everyone loves to do the electric slide. In the summer people love to get on water slides.  The best way to present a power point presentation is through a slide show. The only slide that people don’t like to talk about is the infamous backslide. Yes backsliding is the worst of all slides because although it may satisfy an immediate need, it comes with major consequences. Also, you may have worked so hard to break an old habit that when you find yourself in a familiar situation you feel disappointed. Backsliding is awful, but even the best people find themselves doing it. It can be eating a piece of chicken in the middle of a vegetable fast or breaking out in a cursing tirade when somebody makes you really really upset. It can even be more serious like engaging in acts that go against your faith and almost to the edge of hypocrisy. The trick is not to set goals for yourself that are unachievable because you are setting yourself up to do the hookie pookie, I mean to backslide. Take baby steps into your transition. Cold turkey methods do not work for everyone. Most importantly give yourself time to develop healthy habits because it took you a long time to enjoy/create the old ones. And even if you slide after a major change just remember every day is a new day to get it right. So put your right foot in even when your left foot maybe out, but just dont do the hookie pookie unless you have a permenant dance partner...ha ha ha.

Chi    

Waiting on Love

It’s a big topic amongst my group of friends, whether they’re married or single, we somehow always land on the issue of being single. I don’t know which category you fall in, but at some point, whether you’re male or female, I’m sure you’ve heard one of the following: Are you dating?....Are you married?......Why aren’t YOU married!?....What are you looking for in the person you’re dating?.....just to name a few. Well today as I went thru my day, the title Waiting on Love popped in my head. My first reaction was to disregard it but I couldn’t because this phrase made me hesitate. What does it mean I asked myself? I began to think of love and what it actually means- I bet you think I’m going to try and define love...this thing that everyone is soooo determined to catch, everyone wants to catch the love bug….but I’m not going to define it...not right now...maybe later in a partII, but not right now.

Waiting on Love came to me almost as an afterthought, it was meant for me, and the definition goes far beyond a single definition. I’ve experienced love in many forms (there is God’s love, love from other people, love thru loving people, thru actions, thru words), so WHY of ALL THINGS, should I be thinking of WAITING ON LOVE!!!!  I mean I have love don't I? But that's where the question begins: What does it truly mean to wait on love? ….for me to wait on love? The obvious thing some would infer is that it means to wait on the right person to marry. Well I believe it defines a collection of different events of my life where I will have to opportunity to both give and receive love, not just from a man, but from family, friends, and strangers even. I look at life and I see each of us, everyday, waking up hoping someone will come along and show us some type of love that will assist us in having a great day. If this isn't the truth, then it means the truth is us waking up and hoping someone will come along and hate us, and I don't know many who wake up with this sentiment.

So begins the discussion, explorations, and revelations of what Waiting on Love means for me. Day by day I anticipate being able to wait for the moment when someone comes along and I'm presented with a glimpse of love, some experience we both had been waiting to exchange. Every now and then I'll check back in and give updates.... I know you're waiting on love too, so make sure you do the same.

Signing off while Waiting on Love.

Dee

Clutter Bug

Recently I moved into a new place and to a new area of town. Certain life events took place that lead to my new situation and so it took me a while to become adjusted to my surroundings. It is going on two months and I have basically settled in except for three boxes that I need to clean out. It isn’t that I have not had the time to clean them because there have been opportunities. The boxes contain several memories from my past and I wouldn’t know where to put the contents because there isn’t any more space. My old place had a garage and that is where those boxes existed for several years. Now I am challenged to finally face the items in these three memory boxes and possibly having to let go of certain things I’ve carried with me since childhood. So I have been avoiding my chore by placing them in different areas of the apartment. Each time I have a visitor I say, “Sorry about the boxes, I just moved in”. I am so lying. Another problem is that no matter where I place the boxes, I trip over them either on my way to the kitchen, bathroom, or out the door. It really is funny because it has been so long since I have looked in those boxes, I don’t even know what is in them. So I ask myself why am I so afraid to go through those boxes. What in my past am I dreading to let go. I mean I obviously don’t need certain things if I have been storing them in a garage for three years.

Addressing the past and letting go of certain issues is hard in the physical and spiritual realm. So many things both good and bad are bottled up inside and tucked away in a safe place. We hold on to things and take them from the past to the future, even when there is no room for it. And as we do this we are stumbling over our issues and apologizing to others because whatever we are going through is still fresh, when really it has been years since a hurtful act took place. It is time to look inside those boxes or issues and keep the good and throw away the bad. Organize our living space so we can grow comfortably and mess free.  If it doesn't happen, then the boxes will not go anywhere and people will stop believing the excuses. Most importantly, it ruins the decor.

Chi