When He Wants It, He'll Go After It

Once a man knows what he wants he's gonna pursue.  A couple of friends and myself all nodded in agreement because this fact is undeniable- when a man wants something, he pursues it.  Have you ever known a woman who forgot this important piece of information and attempted to pursue a guy, even when it was clear he had no desire to pursue her back? 

Though some may consider waiting until the man takes charge as old fashioned, there seems to be truth in this concept. People often say stay away from guys who love being pursued by women because these are the guys who will accept the advances of any women and his end goal is to have an easy women who will be even easier to leave when he's ready to move on.  So how do you approach a guy that you like?  Do you take the first step?  Do you let him take the first step and then let him know that you're interested?  Although there's no one way to do anything, ultimately a women should at the very least allow the guy to have a chance to pursue her and show her that he is able to step up and lead and that he's interested in getting to know her better. 

And this is true if you're a teenager as well.  Despite what television is showing and despite what they're doing in the movies, wait and let the guy pursue you.  As a young lady don't feel pressured to be in a relationship so bad that at any cost you're willing to stalk the guy and give up whatever it takes just to be accepted by him.  If today reflected how it was done in the past, we'd have more young ladies realizing the value of their beauty and not be so quick to rush to put on make-up or tight clothes in order to be seen, admired, and respected by a guy.  We would also have more young men realizing the value of their strength, realizing that the number of girls you score doesn't define your manhood, but the quality of your character, your decisions and your actions are what helps to define who you are.

The bottom line regardless of age when it comes to liking someone, dating, or however you want to define it is this:  Stay true to yourself.  It's simple but true.  Whether a guy or girl, don't change who you are just to get someone to like you and don't compromise who you are just because you desire to be loved. 

"Learn to... be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not." <HFA>

 ~DeAndrea~